Help by voting please! Affordable senior care depends on you!

help by voting!

Future and current nurses please help!!
And friends and families of nurses!
And those touched by a nurse! Please help!

My parents have helped over 100s of seniors and their families over the last 20 years by providing quality care in Assisted Living homes. However, costs have skyrocketed! Help us provide affordable quality care by voting. Since we need 250 votes by November 15, please vote and have your friends vote too! It’ll take 2 minutes but it will make a big difference. If each Life With Jess reader voted, we can reach the goal in 5 days. Thank you for your help!

More information about the Assisted Living Homes:
In the early 1990s, my mom was working on her Masters thesis on providing affordable quality care to seniors while working as a registered nurse. She put her thesis to the test. Since then, Citizens for Quality Care (CQC) has been home to 100s of seniors in Southeast Michigan and has made a great difference in families’ lives.

More information about the Chase Mission Main Street Grants:
Chase Bank is offering $250,000 for 12 businesses this year. In order to be considered for the grant, we need 250 votes by November 15. The grant will be used to replace an old boiler that would reduce the cost by thousands each month. While we saved a hospital from demolition by converting it into a beautiful Assisted Living home, some expensive parts need financial help to replace for us to continue to provide affordable quality care.

More information about voting:
A Facebook account is needed to vote at the website:! You can also enter, type in 49221 and click on CQC Stephenson Home. Thank you for your help and please share!

Feel free to ask questions in the comment section.


I anticipated a rough night. A super needy patient, an anxious patient and one straight up with no manners who didn’t know if it’s a good idea to take pain meds or not. And 3 others.

After running around for 11 hours, I hear a thank you.

I hear, “you’re very nice and thanks for taking care of me the last few days. You treat everyone as an equal.”

I hear, “this morning I woke up, crying with tears of joy. I called my best friend to tell him I had the best morning at the hospital since I’ve been here. And it’s all thanks to you.”

It doesn’t get better than that. The gratitude.

And the night before, a patient stated, “I’m so glad you’re here.” And gave me a big smile. He got up; I took his BPs to make sure there’s no orthostatic hypotension (a key sign that not enough blood volume circulates through the body); he walked a good distance for the first time since he had been here and couldn’t be happier.

Using my knowledge to help people get better has always been my top priority and it’s so great to hear it and see it. I love nursing! 🙂

Happy Breast Cancer Month

Yes, I realize that it’s the end of the month but I still want to recognize it. I personally know women who had it and were about to catch it early.

On TV a woman spoke about NFL’s involvement with breast cancer awareness. She asked, why are all the players wearing pink? After her husband told her, she went to get a mammogram. A year later she no longer has breast cancer! So go awareness and go screenings. Get screened especially if something doesn’t look right or feel right.

I went to Providence, Rhode Island over Columbus Day weekend and was welcomed by their WaterFire event and Breast Cancer awareness event. My boyfriend got a free flu shot provided by Walgreens (thanks!!) and I got a free pink pen. It’s pretty neat that an entire town can get together to get really hyped about cancer.

National Mesothelioma Awareness Day

Today is National Mesothelioma Awareness Day.

Now, what is that? It is a completely preventable cancer caused by asbestos, which is in our HOMES. Although it provides resistance to fires and temperature extremes, if you breathe it in, it can cause abnormal growth in your lungs, heart and the lining of the abdomen. About 3 thousand people get it each year.

I still remember that when I was younger and my parents were selling the old house, after going through a house inspection, apparently we had asbestos in our attic. It is a common product used when building homes (like lead in paint!). Immediately it had to get removed so the next homeowner can be safe.

Here are some more facts.

    ASBESTOS IS STILL NOT BANNED IN THE US. Roughly 30 million pounds are still used each year.
    Asbestos fibers are invisible to the naked eye.
    Even more than 30 years after the peak of its use, asbestos exposure is still the NUMBER ONE cause of occupational cancer in the US.
    Asbestos can still be found in many homes, schools, and commercial or industrial buildings.
    Asbestos was once used in more than 3,000 consumer products including household items such as toasters and hair dryers – some of which may still be in use.
    Navy Veterans are at the greatest risk to develop mesothelioma as asbestos was widely used in Naval ships and shipyards.
    NO AMOUNT of exposure to asbestos is safe.

    Get the word out!!

My patients blew kisses to me

blowing kisses


And for that, I’m super happy. 🙂

It could be because I gave them what they asked for quickly.

It could also mean that I remember the small things that they like and repeatedly deliver it. For example, a patient likes his blankets straightened out so I’ll make sure to straighten it every time he calls. Or if someone likes their ice and water separately. Or wants a straw or not. Or the door closed. Or making sure they are getting pain medication at the appropriate time.

Or even more importantly, if they tell me about an abnormal sign or some problems, I act accordingly (speaking to other nurses, the charge nurse, the PA, etc) and resolve the issue.

I do think that it does start top down — the right management attitude, the appropriate beds clustered together so that the nurse taking care of the 6-7 patients isn’t too overwhelmed, the support received from management, other nursing staff, pharmacy, environmental, transport and the doctors (especially when they are thorough with their explanations with the patients and their families)… it all comes down to teamwork and everyone doing their part!! 🙂

If you have a serious illness, should you get palliative care?


Yes. Palliative care provides an additional level of support while still providing curative treatment. Hospice care, on the other hand, also provides support but focuses on pain management and a good quality end-of-life care. Coming from NYU, I’m aware of the NICHE program (Nurses Improving Care for Healthsystem Elders). One thing it does is provide caregiver resources especially useful while you or your loved one is at the hospital. Here is their guide for helping you determine if you need palliative care.

1. Do you have one or more serious illnesses?

Such as: • Cancer • Congestive heart failure (CHF) • Kidney failure • Liver failure • Neurological diseases (e.g., ALS, Parkinson’s) • Dementia • Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD), emphysema, lung disease

Yes___ No___

2. Do you have symptoms that make it difficult to be as active as you would like to be, or impact your quality of life?

These symptoms might include: • Pain or discomfort • Shortness of breath • Fatigue • Anxiety • Depression • Lack of appetite • Nausea • Constipation

Yes___ No___

3. Have you, or someone close to you, experienced the following:

• Difficult side effects from treatment • Eating problems due to a serious illness • Frequent emergency room visits • Three or more admissions to the hospital within 12 months, and with the same symptoms

Yes___ No___

4. Do you, or someone close to you, need help with:

• Knowing what to expect • Knowing what programs and resources are available • Making medical decisions about treatment choices/options • Matching your goals and values to your medical care • Understanding the pros and cons (benefits/burdens) of treatments (e.g., dialysis, additional cancer treatments, surgery, etc.)

Yes___ No___

5. Do you, or someone close to you, need help with:

• Coping with the stress of a serious illness • Emotional support • Spiritual or religious support • Talking with your family about your illness and what is important to you

Yes___ No___

If you answered yes to more than one of the questions, palliative care is something you or your loved one may need. If you feel you may benefit from palliative care, please talk to your healthcare provider today.

Update from April 24, 2014
To spread awareness about COPD and raise money for the COPD Foundation, you can write your story and Healthline will donate $10. The top 5 stories will receive a $75 American Express card.

6:1 Patient to Nurse Ratio Begins!


To keep up with the requirements of a “magnet designated” hospital, my hospital has finally decided to change the medical surgical units to a 6:1 patient:nurse ratio. Originally it had been 7-8 patients per nurse. However, on Monday, August 5, 2013, my unit has decreased the ratio. Here are the differences that I have seen so far.

  • More time with each patient — I can have a discussion ranging from medical diagnoses, plan of care to family life and concerns.
  • More time to help the nursing ancillary staff and other nurses
  • More time to think about their nursing diagnoses and next plan of care
  • More time to read notes to get a better understanding of why each patient is on certain treatments
  • More time to catch a change in a patient’s condition

It has been a positive change so far. I feel that patients are happier in that they see the nurse more and sleep earlier at night (since there are less medications to give and less people to see before they have to sleep).

Greater understanding for the plan of care, knowing when things will happen (when will the doctor see them? when will a procedure happen?) and more sleep

= happier patients = an increase in patient satisfaction = higher reimbursement from Obamacare

I hope that more hospitals do this!

Are sleeping pills safe?


A lot of people can’t fall asleep. Especially in hospitals where there are beeping alarms. The first thing they turn to is a sleeping pill. Especially Ambien.

Sometimes it’s wonderful. It helps you sleep throughout the night. It’s great for people who are good on their feet and not connected to anything.

The problem starts when you have to pee. And you are attached to IV fluids. Your first instinct is to roll out of bed and walk to the bathroom.

Except at the hospital, you won’t remember where the bathroom is and that you’re attached to IV fluids. You won’t remember where you are, why you’re there, what year it is. All you want to do is pee.

Next thing you know, you fell on the ground and ripped out the IV. Just great. But by the morning, you won’t remember any of it happening. Only remaining evidence.

Next time someone asks you for Ambien, think about the safety issues. Offer other sleeping solutions such as decreasing pain, closing the door, and providing eye shades and eye plugs.

As from a nursing research POV, maybe it’s a good idea to come up with a Ambien checklist to assess patient safety.

Top 10 Things You Should Know About Nurses

According to a patient in the hospital, these are the top 10 things patients should know about nurses. I thought that this did a good job of summarizing what nurses do at the hospital from the patient’s point of view.

1. You have been placed in the hospital for nursing care.

2. The provider of that care is an educated individual who unselfishly dedicates themselves to your health and well-being. And even though you may not like being told what things are good for you and what are not, the nurse telling you does so to give you a chance to redeem your health and well-being.

3. That provider is proud to be a nurse.

4. That nurse does more than you know. She plans your care around your medical condition, emotional state, abilities to do for yourself (sorry, [nurse], I think you said “self care” in your rant), that nurse provides support to you and your family, she/he is the link between you and the doctor, [and] the everything in the facility.

5. That nurse does your bedside care, she knows what medicine you need when, and how to give it. She knows what all the tubes and stuff are and what they are used for and what to look at them for.

6. That nurse can hang an IV or hold your hand and reassure you.

7. That nurse watches over you and reads monitors and knows when [you’re] sleeping and when [you’re] awake and pulls strings to get you that cup of tea at 3 a.m.

8. That nurse is your lifeline, she can call a whole team of professionals together with her calm voice and make them work their [butts] off for your life with the flash of her/his eyes.

9. That nurse will wish you luck and give you all the instructions you need when you leave her competent care even if you were the biggest pain in the ass she ever met.

10. The nurse is why you are in the hospital and why you will go onward, be it home, perpetual care, or the morgue, she will insure that you do so with your dignity and rights intact. Why? Because it is what a nurse does.